Words Hurt

sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me

I hate that saying because it’s so not true. Well, sure sticks and stones may break bones but words do hurt! I was just out enjoying my first bike ride of the season (I only made it 2.33 miles but for my first time out I think that’s fairly decent!)  when a car full of teenage boys drove by. One of them not so kindly yelled out the car window:

“hey lady, get your fat a** off that bike before you pop the tires!”

You know, I know I’m big – ok I know I’m fat. But good grief I don’t need other people, especially some young punk, telling me too. I have bad enough self-esteem issue as it is by my own negative self-talk. I tried to just shrug it off and not let it bother me but it made me cry. Thankfully I had sunglasses on so people I passed didn’t realize I was crying.

I so badly want to get to the point where I don’t care what people say about me. It stinks that my feelings get hurt so easily. And why do people think that (1) it’s ok to say rude things, (2) to put someone down that’s out there exercising?

This isn’t the first time I’ve had teens say something mean to me. It just makes me sad that I’m out there being active and that’s not good enough apparently. Our society is so focused on girls needing to be stick thin to be beautiful. I’ll never be stick thin – even in my skinniest days I was still a size 10/12. I am built with a large frame (I guess that’s how you say it) – I have very wide shoulders, wide hips, etc. I’m not built to be stick thin nor do I want to be like that.

Why can’t people understand that just because you’re a bigger person doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy exercising like taking walks or bike rides? I love riding my bike and taking walks. Is that such a bad thing? Apparently for these teen boys it was a bad thing 🙁

Me

6 Responses to Words Hurt

  1. Rae Rae J says:

    I would like to be all “ignore those jerks” but its the very reason I stopped walking on our road last year and bought a treadmill. I know the feeling. 🙁

  2. Serena says:

    I’m so sorry to hear you had that experience. Only someone miserably unhappy himself would say something so nasty. I don’t know if that helps but I believe it’s true.

    Don’t give up!

  3. Eve says:

    Its really sad how rude the younger generation has become these days. When something like that happens to me, I put on my “I didn’t hear a thing” mode and just walk off. It’s whats on the inside that counts, its only shallow people-jerks- who focus on the outer appearance.Beauty is not about being thin, it’s simply being comfortable in your own skin. Thank you for sharing that sad experience. Keep writing:)

  4. Tish - Admin says:

    Thank you for your comments ladies. I need to learn to just let things like this roll off my back…easier said than done unfortunately. I just don’t understand how the teens today can be so awful. I’ve had several run-in’s with teens now that have said mean, hateful, hurtful things to me 🙁

  5. Dawn says:

    I had this happen too. I was out with my daughters walking to a football match and there were crowds of young men. We all reached a crossing on the road at the same time as a similarly fat woman as myself and the boy behind said loudly..Look at the state of those two, its disgusting. My youngest held my hand and squeezed it to encourage me and I cried knowing my daughters heard that nasty comment, and I was ashamed. One of the joys of being nearly at goal is to walk confidently though crowds of teenage boys knowing there are going to be no more fat comments. On the one hand, they are ignorant fools whose opinions dont matter but on the other hand, they do matter because they hurt but winning the diet war also beats the comments away and it feels great. You CAN do it

    • Tish - Admin says:

      Sorry to hear that happened to you Dawn but how sweet of your daughter to have picked up on you needing to know that it would be ok and squeezed your hand. congrats on being close to goal!